I am an enneagram type 4, and my husband is an enneagram type 9:

This can be, paradoxically, both a very comfortable—and yet exciting—relationship pair. Enneagram Fours and Nines are both withdrawn and private, sensitive to the feelings and needs of the other and, empathetic to the suffering of others. Both can be tender-hearted and highly sympathetic to the suffering that they find in the world and in each other. Both want to find a deep connection with the other, and yet, both also want a certain degree of autonomy and insist on a very real degree of privacy. Both Fours and Nines can be highly creative, and as a pair they enthusiastically support the other's creativity and give the other a good deal of space in which to develop their talents. Both are idealistic and want to connect deeply with someone, feeling that they are on a search for their soul mate, the one person in the world with whom they can completely connect and be themselves.

Both Fours and Nines also bring a sensuality and love of comfort that is noteworthy; this may express itself in their lifestyle, traveling habits, and in their sexual and other intimate activities. This is a couple that likes to stay in bed all Sunday morning, reading the papers and talking. Each brings passion and an appreciation of the other coupled with a desire to be comfortable and build a life with the other. Fours can make Nines become more intense and expressive about how they feel, while Nines can allow Fours to feel understood and accepted for who they are. Fours are good at naming feelings and pinpointing emotional states; Nines are good at creating an atmosphere of nonjudgmental acceptance, Nines may even enjoy the emotional storms and dramas that Fours occasionally get into, feeling that it adds spice to their life together. A lot of the pleasure and passion of this couple is nonverbal in the depth of the understanding that each has for the other.

The first time we read this, we were shocked at the accuracy- right down to the relationship problem areas. My husband had told me when we were dating that I would eventually leave him because I would find him "dull"- the enneagram pairing for us says thats a potential problem for 4's romantically involved with the peaceful 9. And, I was worried he would tire of my emotional storms and shut me out.

But, the thing that really stuck with us is that we can never get out of the house on weekends because we will spend the entire day in bed talking- never leaving our pj's. We even go get breakfast and bring it back to bed. Then we had the twinkies, and guess what? We go get them, and they have their bottles in bed with us. We bought our king size bed just for this purpose! Hee. They like to watch a little t.v., cuddle, and we play with them. Its a nice morning ritual.



I can't believe how well they are sitting up! Its very strange to peek into their cribs after naptime and see them sitting upright, playing with a toy. I swear, it is happening soooooo fast. I keep telling Duane "and next month they graduate high school!" as a joke about how quickly this is all moving.

The other interesting thing is that we purposefully bought the extension to the playyard so they babies could have their own sense of space. They have a 36 square foot area with mats. Well, those silly twinkies are never more than a foot apart, and are usually either lying half way on top of eachother, or are back to back as you see here. Too cute!

Lucas felt bad yesterday and he is clingy when he feels sick. Neither of my twins are especially cuddley unless they feel bad, or want reassurance after a topple. I am warped- I actually enjoyed that he wanted to snuggle, even though it was because he had a tiny fever!!! Tilly only wants hugs and snuggles after she has a temper tantrum. I guess she just needs to know that in spite of how she behaves, my feelings for her remain unchanged. Forever.