Thursday, January 24, 2008

Tickles and giggles

Here is what all the twins look like on Saturday mornings. I know that technically Lucas and Tilly are getting a little grown up (*sniff*) for bottles, but, its the only way I can get 9 ounces of milk in them, so first thing in the morning, they still get a bottle. The rest of the day they take sippy cups. Tilly has with her "puppy" who goes everywhere she goes and who stinks and crunches when you touch him. *shudders* I sneak him away once a week for a bath, and then he is smelly and crunchie again within the hour. At bedtime when I kiss her goodnight, she now hands me puppy to also kiss goodnight. *shudders again* I got a whiff of him yesterday when I smooched him and nearly fainted. She also has a kitten she carries around. One arm clutching puppy, one arm clutching kitten. Cute! Two stinky toys! :-)




Lately we have been making an outing together as a family on weekends. We have attained "mini-celebrity" status and have to fight off probing questions from many an excited person. A few times we have had so many gathered around us that we have had to ask them to step away so we could get by and shop. If we try and ignore them, they grab our arms! One woman ran after us yelling in Macy's "Are they TRIPLETS!?!?" (my mom said "Poor little thing, I hope she had someone to help her home"). I have also been asked if they were "Quads" ("Yes, but this set was born a year premature"). They all mean so well, and when in a good spirit, I can laugh about it and as I told one clerk at Macys "We bring such joy to others" and smile while rolling my eyes. The truth is, everyone is happy when they see our babies, and no one has said anything mean to date. But, its a bit taxing on Duane and I to answer so many questions, and since Lucas and Matilda are observing our reactions, trying to always be perky and happy and not give an indication of annoyance which might lead them to believe our family situation is a bad thing. Its not a bad thing. Its a very very good thing. We have managed to slim our packing time from 1.5 hours to 20 minutes, too. At first the hardest part was actually loading babies and gear into the car, but we have that slimmed down and now outings are managable. I still have not braved an outing with two sets of twins so young y myself. I would need a quad stroller first!

This is a favorite new picture of Ewan and Rowan. I tickled them to get these silly smiles. They are such precious boys although Ewan is a nap fighter. He doesn't like his crib and would like to sleep in in "soothing motions glider" from now on, but, he is a fat little roly poly baby who will soon be busting out of his glider so we are transitioning him to the crib. He already looks like one of those "pig in a blankets" laying in his glider because its such a tight fit! Rowan likes the crib and likes to lay on his side SUCKING HIS THUMB. I suppose it was inevitable that we have a thumb sucker in our brood. Ewan takes to sucking his sometimes but prefers his paci still.
Both are sleeping through the night which means we are much more rested in this house!



I had a bit of a quandary about what to do about this blog over the past month. My husband- not realizing this was a private blog- gave the address out. As anyone who regularly reads knows, I mainly blog about our home and our children, but have on occasion vented about family problems. Kuddos to the person who spent several hours reading every page of my blog to find the three entries of 67 that were "offensive". (You have more free time than we do and need a more productive hobby). These entries were deleted (a mistake on my part).

I intially- in haste- wanted to delete the entire thing. I was mortified and angry at my husband. I am basically alone here at home 90% of the day, and my blog was made as anonymous as possible so I had a safe outlet to vent when I needed to, and connect when I needed to. I often joke that when I speak what Duane hears is "blah blah blah". Apparently this was more true than I realized because he has had my blog for months and looks at it daily and never read anything I said in venting. I think his face turned three shades of red when re realized it wasn't a "picture blog". Apparently he read "blah blah blah" and only looked at the pictures. I was hurt that he betrayed my privacy and hurt that someone else was hurt from reading my private entries. However, he apologized to me and the injured party. He told them that this was a private blog. What confuses me is that after they were offended they continued to read and injure themselves further. We were only responsible for the first post that hurt their feelings. If they kept digging, then they were feeling masochistic.

And when I went to delete it, I discovered a plethora of antidotes about Lucas and Tilly that I had not documented in their baby books. And stories I have not documented anywhere about family and friends. My father told me not to delete it, that as long as I spoke true things, I should keep it.

So, this is now a public blog and I have given the address to my family and friends- who I wish to have it. I suppose others may find it. But, I will not tip toe or coddle my reader.

If you choose to read my blog, here is what you should know:

1. This is MY blog. Its about our family and how we feel about what happens to us.
2. I will not use this as a passive aggressive vehicle to express negative emotions about *you*, but, I will write what I feel. If this offends you STOP READING IT.
3. I will not exaggerate or lie about anyone. I will only write the truth. The fact that its "my truth" is inherent.
4. You are welcome to start your own blog and write about "Your truth".

And to everyone else- thank you for being a supportive friend to us.

20 comments:

Genevieve said...

Oh there you are!!! Wow! that sounds like a bit of an interesting situation. Did the revealing of feelings help or hurt the case???The babies are getting so big and they are so adorable.
If you need to vent any further you have my email address.
Have a great week!

Lizzie said...

Judging by the ensuing gossip, it did not help. But then, if you want to be angry and dislike a person, you are going to do your best to do that and not want to accept explanations that are plausible and forgivable, are you? *sighs*

smilnsigh said...

First ~ This is your blog and you have every right to do it, as you choose.

Second ~ No one has a right to tell you differently.

Third ~ Men! -grin- They mean well but oh they do get themselves in trouble, don't they? Even the totally supportive ones do.

Forth ~ It is supposed to be possible to make our blogs 'By Invitation Only.' As in Private. Supposed to be. I simple don't swallow that anything on the Net, can be totally private.

Btw, same goes for those so called private photo places. Nope! Even a not so skilled geek can get into them.

So I long ago decided that I'd not try to put any so-called-private places on the Net. Useless... Sad but true.

Just carry on, Dear. Enjoy your blogging, for all it gives you. And thank you for allowing us to come here too.

Hugs,
Mari-Nanci

smilnsigh said...

Oh I am so glad to see that you have 'blog owner approval' installed now. Yes! You simply don't have the time to keep checking what is commented, in your blog. {I try to check mine, quite a lot, during the day, but I have the time to.}

I am so glad you have done this. Just saying... Because I was so glad to see it.

And because I tend to babble on. -giggles-

Mari-Nanci

Heidi said...

OH Lizzie! I hope you never delete this blog! I love reading it and seeing all your photos. I think this is your online journal and if someone has a problem, it is just that ~ THEIR PROBLEM! You are right in what you just responded with here. If someone wants to live in anger, they will no matter and it is not worth your energy and worry. Concentrate on those who care about you. I know I care and there are many others!

The twins are just gorgeous and really growing. I can't believe how big Ewan and Rowan seem to have grown since the last photos! The photo of them giggling is so sweet. I hope you enjoyed your holidays. It must have been exciting since Lucas and Tilly are getting to the age that they know more and more of what is going on around them.

Hugs ~
Heidi

Jennifer said...

A very nice blog entry, I hope getting some feelings out in the open give you a sense of relief. Glad to hear that you are also getting out more often!

Stephanie Ganger said...

Oh wow the twins are getting big! I was amazed at your Christmas picture that you got them all in it!

I cannot imagine how rude people would be when you go out it sounds exhausting. I think in those circumstances I just say how cute and ask how old. Then smile and say have a good day. I know how exhausting 1 at a time is and you have double the loves!

I love your guidelines for your blog. I think they are very wise and should hopefully avoid future misunderstandings.

Manuela@A Cultivated Nest said...

Hi Lizzie!

The babies are so cute and getting so big (sigh). That's so funny about people stopping you all the time. Do you ever watch Jon & Kate Plus 8?

It's your blog - you do what you want with it!

Take care,

Manuela

Lallee said...

Loved seeing the latest photos, Lizzie! I can only imagine shopping amongst all the well wishers.

I'm glad you have kept your blog up. I would have missed it!

~Becca~Bluebird Rose said...

Hi Lizzie, how nice to see a post and pictures from you! I was just thinking of you yesterday and wondering how you were!
The babies are all adorable. Both of my boys were thumb-suckers, and they both have beautiful smiles now......
:)

Debra from Bungalow said...

Please don't ever take your blog down! We all love seeing pictures of your sweet babies, especially me!

Men...arrrrgghhh
Hugs, DebraK

Unknown said...

This is your blog.
You write what you want and how you want it.

Joanne said...

It was so good to see new photos of the twins... and the twins :) I check your blog at least 2 or 3 times a week hoping for something new! I can just imagine the crowd you gather when shopping, lol.
Hugs, Joanne

Everything Stops for Tea said...

Good for you. Tell the truth and shame the devil I was always told!

the children look so sweet. Hope everyone is over their shock now!

Sarah x

Melanie said...

Hi, Lizzie! I don't know if you remember me, but I'm Melanie from the CHL list. Joanne told us about your blog and how you now had 2 sets of twins (wow!). Your children are beautiful. Blessings to you and your family.

Ele at abitofpinkheaven said...

Please don't ever delete your blog. Your family is beautiful and two sets of twins is something MOST of us never experience. Truth is, we all need to forgive each other as none of us are perfect. This blog was a way for you to work through your struggles and forgive. There is nothing wrong with that. You are amazing for taking care of your babies. Gorgeous pictures.

Michelle said...

Oh, girl....I know the feeling once you realize people you actually "know" are reading it. My DH gave the address to both our Moms and to say that limits the depth of posts is an understatement and I did have my feelings hurt that he had done that. But, I know he didn't do it out of mean spirit but because he was actually proud of how it was and I am trying to keep that in perspective. (((hugs))) on the family issues...we all have them.

linda t said...

Oooh, I needed to see your sweet babies!!
And how fun to see them all together!
You are sooo going to reap the benefits as they grow older and keep each other occupied. Oh, and the stories you will have to share with us!

Brittany said...

Lizzie-

I was so glad to see your post today also. Not only could I relate to what you said about going out (I remember being a [public spectacle in those early days), but I was so glad what your wrote about your blog being private/versus public.

Coming from someone that is also home alone ALOT with the twins, I can completely relate!!!

Britt

Cape Cod Washashore said...

I want more babies!!!! You look like you are having so much fun!!! I DO have four kiddoes (not the same intense work involved that you have, as with mine the age differences are not the same), but your blog just exudes so much joy... those babies are such a DELIGHT!!!